11.1.2025

WE'RE GETTING MARRIED!

Fuey + San

We are so excited to have you join us and our families for this special celebration of our marriage.
Please go to the RSVP page for invitation details.

The Couple

We technically met way back in 2005, at one of those big Mien family gatherings (a Mien wedding) where you’re not really sure who everyone is, but your parents insist you’re somehow related to half the room. We didn’t think much of it at the time, and life moved on.

Fast-forward a couple of years, and we reconnected in college. At first, it was just friendly catching up, but as we talked more, we realized we had a lot in common: shared interests, similar goals, and the mutual ability to survive Mien parties where you’re expected to take at least three shots.

Neither of us was planning to dive into anything serious, especially with school and distance in the way. But before we knew it, our casual chats turned into nightly calls (always after 9 pm), random weekend visits, and finding each other at the end of every semester. Somehow, without planning for it, we ended up in a long-distance relationship that stretched through college and beyond.

We went on spontaneous road trips and tried (and still failed) to agree on where to eat or what movie to watch. With each year, things just kind of… unfolded naturally. There wasn’t one big moment where we said, “This is it.” It was a slow build, a steady partnership, and honestly, we’re still not sure when the “official couple” title kicked in.

ONE DAY, WE JUST LOOKED AT EACH OTHER AND REALIZED... THIS REALLY IS IT.

In true Mien fashion, there weren’t a lot of big words or grand speeches. Just quiet loyalty, shared laughter, and the unspoken understanding that we had become part of each other’s families and each other’s lives for good.

So here we are, taking the next step, not because we had to, but because it feels right. Like it always has.

The Proposal

There was no extravagant trip. No getting down on one knee in front of a scenic waterfall. No candlelit dinner at a restaurant we couldn’t afford. There wasn’t a grand moment of “Will you marry me?” 

In 2018, we did what felt right and what felt very Mien; we asked our parents for their blessings.

So once we had that quiet moment of, “Okay... we’re really doing this,” the next step wasn’t picking out a ring; it was picking up the phone. Our parents started calling each other, and just like that, the official introductions began.

If you’ve ever been through this process, you know what comes next.

THE NEGOTIATIONS

This is where it gets very real, very fast. Discussions that sound like debates but are actually blessings in disguise.

Suddenly, conversations about family expectations, traditions, ceremonial plans, and even the guest list began before we were technically engaged. It was meaningful, slightly chaotic, but completely in line with how Mien families show love to their future in-laws.

So no, there wasn’t a sparkling skyline or a hidden string quartet. But there was love. There was intention. And there was a shared feeling between us and our families that this was the next natural chapter of our story.

And that, to us, was the best kind of proposal we could’ve hoped for.

The Journey

From the first time we met in 2005 to asking for our parents’ blessings in 2018 and celebrating our marriage in 2025, it’s been a long journey and one we deeply appreciate. 

Life has always moved a little slower for us, in the best way.

Nothing rushed.

Nothing forced.

Just steady steps, meaningful moments, and a rhythm that feels right.